Is your crush causing you trouble? If that’s the case, you just have to step up your game and make yourself much more attractive so that the fish gets caught in the net!
Wondering how to be more attractive now, right? Well, it’s not about the clothes or the elegant car. This is the way you behave, according to a former FBI agent who can help you be 200% more attractive!
In his widely popular book, The Like Switch: A guide from the former FBI agent to influence, attract and win people in the past Dr. Jack Schafer reveals the secret laws of attraction and friendship, which can make anyone trust in you and you like it (1).
Here are 10 book tricks that have been used by the same American intelligence services for the past 20 years.
1. Bow your head when you speak
According to Dr. Schafer, tilting your head to one side instead of keeping it straight shows that you are ready to trust the person you are talking to, which is instantly attractive!
However, if you lean your head back and turn your eyes, you can be perceived as hostile! Caution is necessary.
2. Emote with your eyebrows
The raising of eyebrows is the perfect way to let people know that it does not mean any harm and that you have no intention of being aggressive. Also, when you do that, people consider you someone nice to talk to, as long as you don’t close your eyes for a long time or frown or look calculating.
3. Don’t smile, let your eyes smile
A sincere smile can take you a long way! When the brain detects a genuine smile, it begins to release endorphins, which returns the smile and feels good. Such an experience can make people want to communicate with you. On the other side, a hard look, a strained smile or a smile can evoke the opposite feeling.
4. No “you are welcome”
“You’re welcome” is a form of formal and impersonal expression. If you want to give an inspiring reciprocity response, say: “I am sure you would have done the same for me.” Also, don’t hesitate to ask other people for small favors. It makes them feel important and increases their self-esteem.
5. Whisper occasionally when you chat
Whispering inspires a feeling of trust and confidence. When you lean forward and whisper something, the one you’re approaching also automatically leans in, approaching both of you!
In addition to the above, try to avoid speaking out loud or leaning back as these are not perceived as friendly gestures.
6. Allow people to complement each other
If you really want to congratulate someone, give them the opportunity to do it themselves. When talking to someone, create situations in which the person can talk about their own qualities and achievements and then act surprised, asking how they managed to do something so good. Do not resort to compliments on your appearance, as it can be interpreted as a compliment.
7. Make mistakes
One of the best ways to conquer someone is to show that you are as human as the one you are talking about and, therefore, prone to making mistakes. By letting the other person correct you, you make them feel more secure. They begin to feel that they will better understand their deficiencies. In addition, it establishes the similarity, which will automatically bring them closer.
8. Analyze China when it talks
Most people share important things when they eat, for example, business lunches! However, while eating with someone, pay attention to their gestures, as they reveal their true feelings. For example, if the one you are using uses the coffee cup as a wall between you two, show the distance. On the other hand, if the person removes everything from the table, it means they are friendly and close. Sharing food indicates the same.
9. Look at your lips and communicate with your eyes
Touching the lips when communicating shows that the person is shy, an action that is mainly induced when he presents an awkward question. In that situation, learn to correct the way you behave by emitting the right signals with your eyes. If you want to be reliable and I like it, enlarge your students when they speak, as it shows both interest and sympathy and makes you look more attractive.
10. When The Times gets rough, think of Rom-Coms
Dr. Schafer explains it as the “Law of the Rocky Road.” If you watch a romantic movie, you will see that the main actors only become a couple after overcoming many obstacles; consequently, forming a stronger bond than those that start without problems. Then, treat difficult times only as a way to meet the other person and approach them!
In addition to these, other things you can do to be more attractive include touching (and slightly) what you are talking about, nodding, showing sincerity, acting sometimes cold and distant (It works!) And showing the similarities between you two. Everyone is destined to melt a cold heart like a stone!